Oh, the dishonor!
Are you tired of dealing with a disrespectful boyfriend? Have you had enough of dealing with a boyfriend who dishes out the nastiest, meanest insults that have you questioning your very existence?
You’ll find some useful tips in this article.
Let’s get into it.
How to Deal with a Disrespectful Boyfriend
Before we jump into the heart of things, remember to keep an open mind. No two situations are the same. In most cases, you will need to exercise discretion when dealing with your mate.
Keeper of the Tongue
You don’t need to fight fire with fire. If you’re dealing with a disrespectful boyfriend, quarreling worsens the situation.
Instead of shooting back with a retort, keep silent or respond with mildness.
If your boyfriend is observant, he’ll likely catch up on himself and realize what’s happening. The more you fight with a man, the more encouraged he’ll be to maintain the disrespect.
Respect Begets Respect
How have you been dealing with your boyfriend of late? Do you have a knack for sarcasm? Is it natural for you to hurl insults at him?
Some men, not all, work off of a woman’s energy. They give back what they get.
No, I’m not insinuating that you’re a disrespectful person. However, it’s always a great idea to analyze our actions to see if there’s room for improvement.
And usually, there is room to improve. Introspect. Sit down and think about the last time or most recent incident where your boyfriend was disrespectful.
Ask yourself, “What led up to his actions? Did I do anything to encourage his choice of words or the way he behaved? Did I say anything upsetting or belittling?
If after pondering those questions and you’ve discerned no shortcoming on your part, the next step is important.
Talk to Him
In some cases, what you might find disrespectful is normal to some men. As women, we are emotional beings. Some things I say to my husband might appear disrespectful, but after talking it through, it’s established that the intent wasn’t to cause an offense.
If you haven’t tried chatting to your boyfriend about how he makes you feel, find an appropriate time to do so.
Remember, go in peace…
Don’t attack the person but look for solutions. You might also ask your spouse if he thinks you treat him with respect. If he says you disrespect him, perhaps you both need to go back to the drawing board and learn to communicate without dishonoring each other.
If you have been talking to your boyfriend about his disrespectful attitude, but the situation doesn’t change, you may need to grab the bull by the horns.
Get Out of There
If your boyfriend shows no hint of change or progress and still disrespects you, even after relating how he makes you feel, run for the hills.
A man who willingly hurts you doesn’t deserve to be with you. Do you really want to have to deal with a disrespectful boyfriend?
Do you want to marry such a person and endure emotional abuse for as long as you both live together?
I don’t see a happy ending.
Note: If you’re dealing with a disrespectful boyfriend who is also physically abusive, that’s your cue to get out of there.
Too many women try to ‘fix’ a man who doesn’t think there is a problem to be fixed. Don’t hang around to have your family bury you one day.
Even if you love your boyfriend, his actions speak volumes. You don’t deliberately hurt the people you love; you cherish and care for them.
If you have to deal with a disrespectful boyfriend who doesn’t want to change, find someone else who will love and respect you.
Deal with a Disrespectful Boyfriend, Conclusion
I cannot speak entirely for your situation because I don’t have all the details. However, living through abuse isn’t worth it, especially to a man you aren’t legally attached to.
Don’t make the mistake of staying out of obligation, and don’t settle for “promises” that he’ll change. If he’s taking action to better himself, that’s something you can work with. Otherwise, don’t stick around in a relationship that might transform into something torturous, even lethal.